If you’re looking at this, you’ve probably been stuck for way longer than you want to be. Let’s work together to figure out what’s keeping you trapped-whether internal or external, and what changes you can make to get closer to a life you want to live.
A safe space for couples of any type to try to express old pains without just fighting about them all over again. I can’t promise I’ll fix your relationship; sometimes people just really struggle to be together. But let’s see if we can set you on the best possible footing together.
Our biological and found families are cornerstones of our lives, but sometimes pain builds and builds until the family that was supposed to strengthen us just keeps hurting us. Let’s see if we can safely air this old wounds so you can stop stepping on eggshells around each other or fighting all the time.
For family work, I only work with 2-4 people at a time and all adults or older teens.
Trauma comes in all sorts of varieties. Sometimes it’s really obvious, but part of the tricky nature of trauma is when we’re stuck in it, it becomes our normal. It’s even harder when the trauma was subtler or we don’t have good memories of it. We can understand what’s happening to your body and mind, find a sense of safety, and get closer to the life you want to live.
If you have a voice in your head that criticizes and insults you, I’ve put a lot of thought into finding ways to learn to work with that voice, not by directly challenging it with gratitudes and affirmations. But by taking it less seriously and then finding ways to act with compassion even when we believe we don’t deserve it.
A lot of couple problems, too, happen when one or especially both, are really self-critical, because then even mild criticism can explode.
I’m a parent myself and I remember how alone I felt and how strained all my relationships were when I first became a parent. If you’re also struggling to adapt to changes in your family, come in by yourself, with your partner, with your own parent, see if we can see you through this huge transition so that you come out as gracefully as you can.
When we’ve had a really fortunate life, it can be really confusing when we’re still experience all sorts of mental health problems. We can work together to figure out the shape of your distress, where it might be coming from, what might be keeping it going, and figure out ways to shift it.
ADHD makes life so hard! You know all the stuff you want to do, but you just can’t make yourself do the things you need to do when you want to. And there’s so many demands in life, it can feel like you’re running ever faster and not able to catch a break. I can’t prescribe meds, but we can figure out how to make changes in your life so you’re doing the best you can with what you have.
I’m a huge nerd myself and I used to be a software developer before I changed careers. So while I may not know your favorite media inside and out, I probably know of it and I definitely respect how important it is to you. I’ve also got some plans to build some therapeutic roleplaying groups, so if you’re interested, let me know and I might prioritize that a bit higher. I’m particularly interested in exploring therapeutic gaming for couples.
Whether because of your gender or sexual orientation, your race, or something about the way you feel. I respect all my client’s inherent human dignity. I aim to be informed about systemic and cultural forces so you don’t have to teach me about yourself, while also respecting that your experiences are unique and can’t be found in a textbook.
I am kink- and polyam-friendly. While I am not part of the LGBTQIA+ community, I aim to be open, respectful, and thoughtful. I take the shame, discrimination, and fear that are experienced by LGBTQIA+ folks too often seriously.
This feels like a cop-out answer, but I started my career at an agency where I worked with all sorts of people with all sorts of problems and I loved the variety! If you like my style but don’t see yourself in the earlier sections, get in touch with me anyways! Everyone is worth getting help.